If you are reading this, there is a good chance you already know what it feels like to be stuck. You want the divorce to move forward. Your spouse does not — or will not give or accept the Get. And no matter what you do, the process seems to go nowhere. You are not alone. At Hait Family Law, we work with men and women in exactly this situation every day. Our free divorce guide is a good place to start if you want to understand your rights before speaking to a lawyer.
Get refusal is one of the most painful parts of divorce in Israel — and one of the most misunderstood. The terms you have probably already heard — Agunah, Agun, Moredet — carry real legal weight and serious financial consequences. This guide explains what they actually mean, what the courts can and cannot do, and what practical steps you can take.
How Divorce Works Under Israeli Law: Two Courts, One Process
Jewish marriage in Israel is governed by religious law, so a civil divorce alone does not exist for Jewish couples. To end the marriage, the husband must give his wife the Get — a formal writ of divorce — and the wife must accept it freely, in a ceremony before the Rabbinical Court. Neither court can physically compel this. What they can do is apply legal and financial pressure.
The Family Court handles the civil side: custody, child support, the division of the marital home, and financial assets. The Rabbinical Court controls the Get. Both tracks must be managed simultaneously — and the sequence in which you move across them is one of the most important tactical decisions in an Israeli divorce. For a full overview, see: Divorce in Israel.
The Four Concepts You Need to Understand
What Is the Get — and Why Can It Not Be Forced?
The Get is a formal divorce document that must be given by the husband of his own free will and accepted by the wife of her own free will. If either party acts under duress, the Get is invalid — and the marriage is not dissolved in the eyes of religious law.
The Rabbinical Court can order a reluctant spouse to cooperate and can impose sanctions, but they cannot put a valid document in someone’s hand and compel them to sign it freely. That is why Get refusal cases can stretch for years and require a coordinated strategy across both court systems. For a first-hand explanation of how refusal plays out: Spousal refusal to give divorce — explained.
What Is an Agunah or Agun — the “Chained” Spouse?
The Hebrew words aguna (עגונה, feminine) and agun (עגון, masculine) both mean “chained.” A spouse who cannot obtain a Get is bound to a marriage they cannot legally leave.
For a woman (agunah): She cannot remarry. Any children she has with another man are classified as Mamzerim under Jewish law — a status that restricts their own ability to marry within the Jewish community, across generations.
For a man (agun): He also cannot remarry, with two narrow exceptions: a Sephardic man may apply to the Rabbinical Court for permission to take a second wife; an Ashkenazic man needs the agreement of 100 rabbis. Neither is common or easy.
There are currently approximately 2,000 open agunah and agun cases in Israel — roughly equal numbers of men and women. Get refusal is used as leverage by both spouses. This video addresses what both sides experience: Get refusal — what families face.
What Is a Moredet — and Does Your Wife Qualify?
A Moredet (מורדת) is a wife the Rabbinical Court determines has abandoned her marital obligations without justification. If this designation applies, the financial consequences for her are significant: she may lose her right to spousal support while the divorce is pending and forfeit all or part of her Ketubah entitlement — the financial commitment made to her at the time of marriage.
The court can apply the Moredet designation where your wife has:
- unilaterally left the marital home without grounds such as domestic abuse
- been found to have had an extramarital affair
- refused to accept the Get once the marriage is clearly over
- refused to fulfill basic marital care responsibilities toward her husband
That last point covers more than it might seem. Even in a marriage that has effectively ended, a wife who stops basic household routines as an act of protest — before the separation is formally in place — may give grounds for a Moredet ruling. If any of these apply to your situation, raise it with your attorney early. It directly affects the financial leverage you have in both courts. Download our men’s divorce guide for a full explanation of how the Moredet designation plays into case strategy.
How Do the Family Court and Rabbinical Court Work Together?
Each court controls its own domain and neither can override the other. A skilled divorce lawyer manages both tracks simultaneously — because the financial leverage in Family Court and the Get timeline in Rabbinical Court are directly connected. Moving too fast in one court without a strategy in the other can leave a spouse in the worst position: assets distributed, custody locked in, and still no Get.
My own position is simple and non-negotiable: I will not represent a client who is unwilling to give or receive the Get from their spouse. The Get should be exchanged once the substantive issues — custody, support, and asset division — have been resolved. Using it as leverage before that point prolongs suffering without improving outcomes.
Three Mistakes That Make Get Refusal Cases Worse
Mistake 1: Treating the Get as a bargaining chip
Why it matters: Courts on both sides are experienced with this tactic and respond with sanctions and cost orders. It hardens the other party’s position, extends the case, and in some situations exposes the refusing party to criminal liability.
The fix: Let the Get process run on its own track, parallel to — not conditional on — the financial negotiations. Your lawyer should be managing both tracks so that nothing is exchanged prematurely and nothing is held hostage.
Mistake 2: Moving out without understanding the Moredet risk
Why it matters: A wife who leaves the marital home unilaterally — where domestic abuse is not the reason — risks a Moredet designation that strips her right to spousal support for the duration of a divorce that may take years to finalize.
The fix: Before making any physical move, get legal advice. There are legitimate ways to separate safely without triggering the financial penalties attached to Moredet status.
Mistake 3: Waiting years before getting real legal advice
Why it matters: Get refusal cases do not improve with time. Rights can be waived by delay. Children age and their legal status becomes harder to adjust. Financial positions entrench. Rabbinical Court files go cold.
The fix: Get a legal assessment early — even if you are not ready to file anything. Understanding your position costs far less than correcting avoidable mistakes.
Frequently Asked Questions
What can a court do if my husband refuses to give the Get?
The Rabbinical Court can issue a ruling obligating him to give the Get, then impose sanctions — passport and driver’s license restrictions, bank account freezes, and in extreme cases criminal referral. The Family Court can also factor the refusal into financial rulings. However, it can take a long time to get to the point where the courts are willing to impose these sanctions. They are not immediate options. What neither court can do is physically compel the ceremony, which is why Get refusal requires sustained legal pressure across both systems.
Can a wife be forced to accept the Get?
Yes. A wife who refuses to accept the Get without justification faces pressure from the Rabbinical Court and may lose financial entitlements including spousal support. “Freely accepted” does not mean she has the right to refuse indefinitely without consequence. Why can a wife be pressured to accept the Get, but the husband may not? The requirement that a husband divorce his wife willingly comes directly from the Torah (d’orayta), while the requirement for the woman to accept the Get willingly comes from the Rabbis (d’rabanan), so it is a lower-level prohibition. As a result, though it is ideal that both parties are willing participants, there are certain leniencies that can be applied to compel the woman to accept the Get.
What does “Mamzer” mean and why does it matter?
A Mamzer is a child born of a prohibited relationship under Jewish law — including a child born to a married woman by a man who is not her husband. The status restricts the child’s ability to marry within the Jewish community and carries consequences across generations. This is one of the most serious reasons the Agunah problem extends well beyond the two spouses.
How does a Moredet ruling affect the financial settlement?
For the husband, a Moredet designation is meaningful leverage: it can result in his wife losing spousal support during the proceedings and partial or total loss of her Ketubah entitlement — significant amounts in longer marriages. It may also influence how the Rabbinical Court views the overall financial settlement.
How do I get help if I am stuck in Get refusal?
Call us at 077-200-8161 or email jay.hait@orcheidin.co.il to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. The earlier you understand your legal position across both courts, the more options you have.
Your Pre-Appointment Checklist: Get Refusal Cases
- Write down the timeline — when refusal started, what was said, what has been filed in any court
- Note which court has already been used (Family Court, Rabbinical Court, or both)
- List any financial, custody, or support arrangements currently in place or under dispute
- Record any communications from your spouse about the Get — dates, content, and medium
- Download the free divorce guide relevant to your situation — separate guides for women and for men
- Review our Divorce in Israel overview to understand the parallel court process before your consultation
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